193: How the Gospel Puts an End to Shame with Jasmine Holmes

Jasmine Holmes is a wife, mom of 3, writer, teacher at heart, and author of the brand new book, “Never Cast Out: How the Gospel Puts an End to the Story of Shame”. She comes on the show today to encourage us with the truth of how the gospel frees us from shame.

WHAT WE CHAT ABOUT ON THIS EPISODE:

~Jasmine’s new book, “Never Cast Out: How the Gospel Puts an End to the Story of Shame”, what led her to write it, and what readers can expect

~The impact shame has on women especially

~The wrong idea that shame is a tool that Jesus uses to whip us into shape; what the truth actually is

~The different responses we have to shame and the part shame plays in our lives

~Shame as a sub-par motivator for holiness

~The context of our call to holiness as being in light of Christ’s love for us, not in the context of shame

~The truth that Christ does not call us to shame, but to full-hearted confidence in Him

~Seeing shame as an indicator light; questions to ask yourself when you’re feeling shame

~The importance of knowing the character of God

~How shame cuts into our relationship with Christ

~Shame and how it manifests itself in moms through the issues of the mommy wars and mom guilt

~The difference between shame (worldly grief) and repentance (godly grief)

~Understanding that shame will never lead you to Christ and towards the path of reconciliation and restoration

~The difference between conviction and condemnation

~The 3 false gospels or wrong reactions we tend to respond with to the issue of shame

~Finding your way back to God after realizing that the god of shame that you believed in was not the God of the Bible

~The beautiful freedom we can find in Christ

~And more!

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Jasmine’s new book, “Never Cast Out: How the Gospel Puts an End to the Story of Shame”

My book, “Lies Moms Believe (and How the Gospel Refutes Them)”

The Grimkes: The Legacy of Slavery in an American Family by Kerri K. Greenidge

Black Radical: The Life and Times of William Monroe Trotter by Kerri K. Greenidge

Vanguard: How Black Women Broke Barriers, Won the Vote, and Insisted on Equality for All by Martha Jones

Raybearer by Jordan Ifueko

Jubilee by Margaret Walker

Cherish Farrah by Bethany Morrow

The Trees by Conrad Richter

Ringshout by P. Djèlí Clark

INSPIRING QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

“A lot of Christians who are grappling with their faith right now are realizing that shame is a sub-par motivation for holiness.”

“Shame is not what God wants for us. We are called to be set apart and to be holy, but that is never talked about in Scripture in the context of shame. It is only ever talked about in the context of His love for us and the love the Father has for the Son.”

“Shame cuts into our relationship with Christ. It takes Him and His love for us off the throne and puts the bad feeling of shame on the throne instead.”

“Shame should be seen as an indicator light and lead us to ask questions: Have I sinned? Ok, then I need to run to Christ and go deeper into relationship with Him. Have I put something on the throne other than Christ? Ok, then I need to run to Christ and go deeper into relationship to Him. Shame is an indicator light that we need to go back to an ever-deeper relationship with Christ and remember what is true about our relationship with Him.”

“Adam and Eve had confidence in God’s goodness before they sinned. But after they sinned, they lost that confidence and hid instead. That’s what shame does – it causes us to lose confidence in the goodness and holiness of God and to doubt who He is and who He has proven Himself to be.”

“Shame leads you deeper into yourself, into navel-gazing. It will never lead you closer to Christ, it never leads you to the path toward restoration. But godly grief, godly repentance leads you to that path towards restoration and reconciliation with God.”

“Shame is a sub-par substitute for the Holy Spirit.”

“The Lord wants to reveal to you who He really is. I firmly believe that if you have wrongly been taught that the god of legalism and shame is the God of the Bible, that He will reveal Himself to you as He truly is.”

“I want people to know the true freedom that comes from Christ. It is so life-giving, and that is what I want for people.”

WHERE YOU CAN FIND JASMINE ONLINE

Book – Never Cast Out

Instagram – @jasminelholmes

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